SUMMER SANITY: Feeding The Crew
Are you like me and have a darling little hurricane of a child who never, ever stops going, doing, creating, scheming? Does he/she have an overwhelming amount of ideas every day, and any time you get in the way of he/her accomplishing them it becomes a major "deal"? If there are other children in your family, does this one little soul take up more energy than all the others combined? Does he/she constantly rally the others to go along with her ideas, live by her creeds and sparking when they don't? If he/she is your only one, do you suspect the mama's who have a few mild mannered children have the equivalent of your singleton?
I have one of these amazing little humans who either will grow up to be a world-changer or be incarcerated. We are hopeful we live to see her be the former. In the meantime, the sheer level of energy she infuses to the other already strong-willed/energetic children in our tribe has me grappling with how to lovingly channel all (most) of it, all day, every day during the summer months. This doesn't mean I am dreading summer, or ungrateful for "down time" with my children, but it does mean that I kinda mourn the end of school that keeps my one-who-affects-the-others-with-her-vast-energy happily occupied and know from other years that I need a whole lot more ingenuity and energy to outwit/meet the needs of my sweet little hurricane from allll that she will set out to do on her own and with her built-in side-kicks who move and breath beside her. She is amazing, completely worth all the tiredness. They all are.
May I just say, if you do not have a child like this, I do not doubt you still have these small challenges (likely you have far more than I could ever know!). But i would ask you to not assume I'm simply being overdramatic and lazy...and I'll do my best to not assume you are living large on Easy Street, watching your children quietly read volumes of Old Mother Goose tales under big old oak trees for hours on end as the summer sun dapples between the branches on their rosy cheeks. Okay? Great!
This is one reason why summer feels so daunting to me. While I am absolutely thrilled I do not have wallflowers for children, as each year passes, I feel the growing disparity in the importance of raising them rightly and the needed energy/insight to do so. Most days, still, I am simply surviving...and quiet honestly, I thought I would have already arrived at achieving a "thriving" status.
I've been spending the last few days considering ways we can keep summer SIMPLE to increase the chances of this mama can stay SANE. This is why we visited a local pool this afternoon to make a first-time inquiry about membership ("chores in the morning, pool in the afternoon, sun-sapped children by night" is my thinking). And also on my mind? FEEDING THE CREW.
Sustenance is kind of a big deal, and no matter how many times I've tried meal planning (even subscribing to an app that does EVERYTHING short of grocery shopping and food prep for you, emeals.com), it has never taken. Details and I have tried to make it work, but we've come to accept we're always going to be "just friends"...and not very close ones at that. I tapped the brilliant brain of a close friend of mine who is FAR better at organizing her life than I, yet we are close enough in personality, I knew she would give me a "doable" idea. She did not disappoint.
Thus, this "meal plan" is posted on our refrigerator for all to see (no more answering "what's for dinner?"):
My plan is to grill whatever we can get our hands on for the weekend, but for the five busiest (longest) days of the week we can fall back on our family favorites and my grocery shopping is simplified. This streamlining may only work for a few weeks, but at least it's a few weeks where I know what is on my grocery list and my children know what they can expect for dinner. I have no expectation for this to last for the next ten years, or even ten months. Seeing as though I'm usually scouring my freezer for a piece of frozen meet thirty minutes from our standard dinner time, this is a big move in the right direction. For however long it works, I feel some what girded...as though I had found a suitable pair of Spanx to get me through a fitted dress for a class reunion that will last into the night.
I am serious when I ask ...if you have a "high energy" brood with whom you love with all of you heart, but who leave your body utterly exhausted by the end of most days, PLEASE do not feel shy in sharing any summer survival tips with me. I will be happy to share them on here so we can all benefit!
We mama's are all imperfect captains of our own little ships, each with a crew whose number and nature are different from any others. We simply do the best we can...and if our little deck mates know they are loved immensely, then all the activities (or lack thereof) on-board are only bonus features on the voyage towards adulthood. We can wave to each other from the stern and cheer each other on as we pass or journey beside each other.
I'm just going to go ahead and keep sharing ideas--the ones the work and a few of the crash-and-burn's--because we need to know we aren't in this alone and are looking for ways to stay out of little white jackets.
PS. As I was writing this, my husband brought out the old Wal-Mart toddler pool from the barn attic. We might just make it through Memorial Day on this alone. Thank God for small blessings.